We Wake to the Same Morning, Yet We Stand in Different Places

On the Perception of Time, Differences in Cycles, and the Language of Numbers

Behind the difficulty women and men often experience in fully understanding one another lies a difference in time—one that frequently goes unnoticed.

The same events take place; yet the physiological and biological structures of women and men do not register these events in the same way.
For this reason, women and men do not wake up to the same morning.

When morning arrives, for a man the day often begins from zero.
A sense of new energy, a new direction, a new movement emerges.
The emotions experienced the day before seem, mentally, to have been left behind.

For a woman, however, morning is not a place where yesterday has completely ended.
The emotional state, mental traces, and inner processes continue.

This is why, from the outside, matters may appear to be “dragged on.”
Yet in most cases, nothing is being prolonged; there is simply a process that has not yet been completed.

At this point, two inner voices come face to face:

On the man’s side:
“Why is this still here?”

On the woman’s side:
“Then what matters to me must not matter to him.”

At this stage, both sides tend to look for someone to blame.
Yet the issue is rarely intention; more often, it is a difference in the perception of time.

The Question of Cycles

The relationship women’s and men’s bodies establish with time is not the same.
Because time does not begin from the same point for everyone, nor does it move at the same pace.
At this point, the narrative requires a symbolic language.

The Story of 1 and 2

In numerology, 1 is associated with the Sun.
The Sun rises, guides, gives direction, and sets.
1 is the initiator.
It represents masculine energy.
It is leadership.

Yet one must understand this about the nature of 1:
It does not take you by the hand and lead you forward.
It shows the path; the walking belongs to someone else.

2, on the other hand, is the Moon.
It is maternal energy.
Compassion, mercy, and containment.

Compassion is not momentary.
Mercy is not a one-time act.
To support requires continuity.

For this reason, the nature of 2 is cyclical.
It remembers.
It carries.
It waits.
It stays beside.

Compassion does not form in daily cycles alone.
Walking together hand in hand requires time.

Where Does the Break Begin?

To expect the same rhythm from these two structures inevitably produces conflict.

And this conflict emerges within the domain of 2.

Because 2 is the structure that thinks in detail.
It remembers, examines, and forms connections.
If something has not closed, it remains with it.
It thinks.
It wants to weigh.
It wants to understand.

For this reason, the side that initiates conflict is often 2.
Yet this initiation does not arise from the desire to argue, but from incompletion.

For 1, the picture is different.
1 has initiated.
It has shown direction.
From its perspective, the cycle has closed.

Thus, the inner voice of 1 is often this:
“Why are we constantly arguing?”

Yet what 2 is asking is not an argument.
2 is asking:
“Is this truly finished?”

Here, one is not disturbing the peace.
The other is not indifferent.
There are simply two structures reading time differently.

What Does İnsan-ı Marifet Say?

İnsan-ı Marifet reminds us of this:
Instead of seeking who is right, notice the rhythm.
Because relationships are shaped not by the question “Who is right?”
but by the question “How is this being walked?”

One becomes light.
Becomes day.
Makes the path visible.

The other holds the night.
Becomes inspiration.
Tends the wound.
Carries what remains in silence.

And when this difference is understood,
conflict ceases to be a problem
and becomes a need for translation.

A Small Threshold

This text looks at the time difference within relationships.
But not every rupture ends here.

Why does communication break down?
Why does trust not form at the same moment?
Why does responsibility become heavy at a certain point?

These questions belong to the domain of 3 – 4 – 6.

Without opening 3, 4, and 6,
no conflict experienced within 1–2 can truly close.

The continuation of this journey is in the members’ area of İnsan-ı Marifet.